So at 190lbs, I had the rear spring replaced for a stiffer one, fork springs were fine for my weight. Front and back were revalved. In hindsight, I would have just put a stiffer spring on the rear for a fraction of the cost and hassle.
My most comfortable setting when riding solo and no luggage was 2 helmets + luggage and -3 soft. (Roads around here are pretty bad). But then when I ridded with a passenger and luggage, I had no more preload to add, I was maxed out.
Turns out with the stiffer spring, I get the same sag using the 1 helmet, as I did before when on 2 helmets + luggage. So clearly that was a right spring and now I have room to increase preload when fully loaded.
As for the valving, and all the rest that was done. Wasn't worth it, the linkage is also a limiting factor when you are trying to smooth out the bottom of the stroke, as it's progressively harsher, so the more travel you want to use, the harsher it gets, and if you don,t want to use the lower portion of the stroke, you have to stiffen it up to stay in the softer zone, but then you're still stiffer.
Conclusion: Until someone redesigns a linkage for this bike, I'd say just make sure you are able to get proper sag (by increasing the preload and if you can't get there, you know the spring is undersprung for you.)
PS: I know plenty are over the moon with the suspensions, and that's great, more money for you to put in the gas tank. Just sharing the experience for those who are considering getting some suspension work done.