Dogdaze
Well-Known Member
Not trying to validate my actions, but I had occasion to visit our local Ikea today with my youngest daughter (5), and after the cashier there is a hotdog/coffee/donut etc kiosk, I generally let my daughters go by themselves while I wait to pay, to get themselves an ice cream cone. I try to encourage independence and public interactions. Today was the same, I could see it was busy, and she was waiting patiently in line, one by one she was getting closer to the front of the line. I paid and waited for her by the self serve ice cream machine, she was next. I looked up and some guy with his lady who were behind my daughter were now in front, they just barged past her and got served....
I blew my stack, instant, no lapse, I was gone!
I walked up to the guy and asked what he was doing, did he not think my daughter deserved to be served (my amateurish German, then it goes English)? Was she not a 'human being' too?
he was shocked into reality, apologised profusely claiming he did not see her!!
I told him how can I encourage her to be independent, patient and respectful when someone just ignores her existence because she is a child?
I think the guy felt bad as he then proceeded to apologise to my daughter and agreed that he was wrong....... Now I felt bad for being OTT.
I blew my stack, instant, no lapse, I was gone!
I walked up to the guy and asked what he was doing, did he not think my daughter deserved to be served (my amateurish German, then it goes English)? Was she not a 'human being' too?
he was shocked into reality, apologised profusely claiming he did not see her!!
I told him how can I encourage her to be independent, patient and respectful when someone just ignores her existence because she is a child?
I think the guy felt bad as he then proceeded to apologise to my daughter and agreed that he was wrong....... Now I felt bad for being OTT.