You didn't like the simple and obvious solution, to run more pre-load. Why you're fighting so hard against trying that is a discussion for you to have with yourself. Some riders have a flawed expectation of how this bike should ride. I don't know if you fit that category or not. Some will simply observe that if a bike is too upright, the pre-load is almost always too light for the bike's load.
Many new owners don't set the suspension up at all, never mind to their weight and needs, (sag). Ballisticexchris went to great detail when he bought his Super Ten to do this work, before he decided to go to raising links. (those discussions are on the forum somewhere) Raising links will raise the rear of the bike and will create quicker turn in. You may or may not like the results, but it's an inexpensive and easy thing to try. Slightly more expensive is the adjustable side stand. There are a couple of decent ones and a lot of cheap ones.
I've put over 150k on two generations of Super Tens over a ~9 year period. (a bunch of people here have many more miles than that) Like many here, I've ridden all over the country and in other countries. I have NOT had an ES and your issue is one mostly related to ES owners. My bikes have had taller seats, custom suspension and been run loaded with panniers all the time. Sometimes with as much as 11 gallons of fuel. Even stripped of luggage and running empty, I've never had a situation where the bike felt like it was going to fall over, on or off pavement. Anyone with off pavement experience knows you have to pay attention when you put the side stand down, not every spot works. "riding in circles" is a bit of an exaggeration, imho. But expecting to be able to stop anywhere and put the side stand down is too. I've suffered through my wife having this issue with her GS and 90% of the time it was her comfort zone, not the bike or surface, along with her running too light of preload for her load because she wanted the bike to sit lower, (inseam challenged). That bike was also an ES. Some people like to play with buttons too much instead of setting it up right and leaving it alone.
You don't have the excuse of being inseam challenged. You're skinny and tall, but that doesn't mean you're necessarily running the correct pre-load either. I simply don't know you or your bike and how it's set up front and rear.
Be careful about throwing stones when you're the new guy asking questions. There is a lot of experience here, so don't be so quick to ignore the basic stuff in the hopes of buying a fix for a problem relatively few people have.