I am sure its been said, but I am too lazy to read the whole thread...
Some rules of thumb when working with aluminium housings and steel bolts.
* Never, ever, force it. The bold should thread in easily, resistance is bad.
* If you are experiencing resistance, and are confident that everything is ok, get a tap and trace the threads.
* Never over tighten, most bolts are not holding down heads on a diesel engine, if you are not confident in your ability to tighten properly, use a torque wrench. You will probably be surprised how "loose" the bolt is. Triple check your torque setting and make sure you selected the correct units.
* When in doubt and frustrated, take a break and come back to it.
I am a big fan of people doing their own maintenance, I have stripped plenty of threads, so I hope to pass along my experience.